Kyle Paskewitz – Father

  • What is your name:
    • Kyle Paskewitz, 47 years old
  • What is your profession:
    • Operations Manager
  • What county do you live in/is your case in:
    • Pierce County, WA
  • How often are you allowed to see your child:
    • Between 30% and 50%
  • What do you miss most about time with your child:
    • What I miss the most is being respected as an equal.  When I was a married dad, I was allowed to have a relationship with my sons with no limits and no opposition.  Now, even ten years after our divorce, I still am viewed by the system as less than a parent, I’m seen as a visitor and treated with hostility despite always trying to do what’s best for my boys and my family.
  • Why do you support equal shared parenting:
    • My parents divorced when I was 12 years old. They never fought, they sat down and made rational decisions about our time and our future, like normal healthy adults. Sharing the rights and responsibilities of parenting was just something I assumed was a normal part of raising children and was obviously what’s best for my kids. Washington State not only failed miserably in protecting our rights, they were complicit in violating them. Our system needs to change in order to protect future generations from the trauma inflicted by the family court system.

      I could write an entire book about my story, and probably will some day. I started Family Court Reform USA, a national non-profit organization dedicated to achieving better outcomes for children, parents and families who struggle with high conflict child custody situations, and later became the chair of Parentalink, originally created to educate about parental alienation. Our mission has since broadened to encompass a variety of challenging child custody situations and help provide support to the families struggling with these issues. I have dedicated a good part of the last six years trying to address these problems on both the state and federal level, as well as providing support and policy guidance here in my local community. It is my goal and desire to never have to see our future generations suffering through what the state courts have put my family through, simply because our marriage didn’t work out. Kids deserve both parents.

Anonymous 1 – Father

  • What is your name:
    • Prefer to remain anonymous due to ongoing litigation in family courts system, Age: 38 years old
  • What is your profession:
    • Carpenter
  • Names & Ages of Children:
    • Anon Son/10 & Anon Daughter/8
  • What county do you live in/is your case in:
    • King County
  • How often are you allowed to see your child:
    • Every other weekend, if she decides to allow it
  • What do you miss most about time with your child:
    • I miss telling jokes and playing games with my kids
  • Why do you support equal shared parenting:
    • My kids are my life and just because things didn’t work out with my ex doesn’t mean that I can’t and shouldn’t be allowed to be a good parent.

Amber Lambert – Mother & Step-Mother

  • What is your name:
    • Amber Lambert
  • What is your profession:
    • Sales Executive
  • What county do you live in/is your case in:
    • Pierce County
  • Names/Ages of Children:
    • Bryn is my 8 year old step-daughter, I also have 2 daughters, Ryla/12 and Cheyenne/18
  • How often are you allowed to see your child:
    • I am lucky that I see my oldest two daughters when I want, but our time with my step daughter is greatly restricted and I often go full weeks without getting to talk to her. This affects her and her sisters the most.
  • What do you miss most about time with your child:
    • I miss the laughter, fun, and giggles that fill the house when she is with us. It is hard to hear my 12 year old miss her sister so much and not be allowed to talk to her freely.  They have such an amazing bond.
  • Why do you support equal shared parenting:
    • I support equal rights. Period. I believe it takes 2 to make a child and it’s in the best interest of the child, in most cases, to have both parents equally involved in their lives.  I know many single parents who would give anything to have the other parent WANT to be involved, yet I hear of so many parents who want to be involved, but aren’t allowed due to a bitter ex.  I see the pain in my husband’s eyes daily as he misses his daughter and deals with a system that says he’s good enough to adopt two other children, he is allowed to make new kids, but limited in raising his own.

Brian Lambert – Father

  • What is your name:
    • Brian Lambert
  • What is your profession:
    • IT Sales Executive
  • What county do you live in/is your case in:
    • Pierce County
  • How often are you allowed to see your child:
    • I was granted the “standard” every other weekend schedule.  Including a mid-week dinner “visit” I am permitted to see my child about 27% of year.
  • What do you miss most about time with your child:
    • I miss tucking her in at night and helping her learn new things. I miss reading to her and cooking with her.  I really just miss the simple day-to-day things with her.
  • Why do you support equal shared parenting:
    • I am a great Dad and have an amazing bond with my daughter. My daughter deserves to have both of her parents equally in her life.  It sucks to be looked at as a “visitor” with your own child.  I am allowed to adopt and raise two other children that are not my own, but am not allowed to pick up a phone and talk to my own daughter.  The system is broken.